Why Am I Being Stalked?
Why Am I Being Stalked?
Stalkers can be put into a different categories based on the motivation of their stalking behaviour.
Please see our page on stalking types and types of stalker.
There are a wide range of motivations for stalking. These may include:
- The stalker begins to stalk after their partner (romantic or close friendship) has ended their relationship or indicates that he or she intends to end the relationship.
- The stalker wants to be in a relationship with the victim again or seek revenge on the victim. The stalker's goals may vary, depending on the responses of the victim.
- The stalker wants to frighten and distress his victim.
- The stalker stalks his victim to get revenge against someone who has upset him.
- The stalker views his victim as being similar to those who have oppressed and humiliated him in the past.
- The stalker may view himself as a victim striking back against an oppressor.
- The stalker may stalk the victim as part of a plan to attack her, usually sexually.
- Is motivated by the promise of sexual gratification and power over his victim.
- Seeks to establish an intimate, loving relationship with his victim.
- The stalker may believe the victim is in love with them.
- The stalker believes that the victim may be the only person who can satisfy their desires.
- The stalker believes the victim is an ideal partner.
- The stalker is not a would-be lover. He already loves the victim.
- The stalker may interpret any kind of response from his victim, even negative responses, as encouragement.
- The stalker may believe the victim owes him love because of all he has invested in stalking her.
- The stalker is very resistant to changing his beliefs about his victim's love for him.
- The stalker is motivated by a desire to start a romantic or intimate relationship with his victim.
- The stalker is impaired in his social skills and courting skills.
- The stalker believes that he is loved by the stalking victim. He believes this even though his victim has done nothing to suggest it is true, and may have made statements that she does not and never will love him.
- The stalker reinterprets what his victim says and does to support his belief that she loves him.
- The stalker makes the imagined romance with his victim the most important part of his life.
- The stalker believes that the imagined romance will eventually become a permanent union.
If you think that you are being stalked, monitor what is happening and keep a diary of it. Report it to the police if it continues, and if you need further help or advice contact us.
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